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Dating After Thirty / Dating Over Thirty / Dating as a grown-up is more fun.

2018.03.08 21:57 ClassyAnalViolator Dating After Thirty / Dating Over Thirty / Dating as a grown-up is more fun.

Dating After Thirty / Dating Over Thirty / Dating as a grown-up is more fun.
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2014.08.19 14:44 Catholic Dating

For when coffee and doughnuts after Mass doesn't cut it.
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2018.12.15 05:45 CurmudgeonlyBlaggart You and me baby ain't nothin but mammals

Discussion of dating, relationships and the single life with people 40+. Please be civil.
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2020.11.26 16:39 north0east Twenty questions to ask to your MPs, Senators, Governors, Ministers, Premiers and or other local leaders.

Regular Lockdown Sceptics contributor Dr Claire Craig , along with Dr Jonathan Engler, has kindly written this list of killer questions for readers to send to their MPs: source
Posting this here not only for UK folks to write to your MPs. But to inspire our global community to possibly use some of these points to draft their own letters. I personally feel several of these are excellent questions and reasonable journalists should be asking them day in and day out.
  1. Why are SARS-CoV-2 antibody levels flat or dropping across all age groups since May if the pandemic is still going?
  2. What percentage of the population is assumed to have had prior immunity. to SARS-CoV-2 in the SAGE forecasting models?
  3. Why do 50% of household members not catch SARS-CoV-2 from infected persons with whom they live?
  4. Why have Japan and South Korea not had a serious outbreak if the human species has no prior immunity to SARS-CoV-2?
  5. What percentage or the population or the UK is assumed to be immune to COVID-19 (including prior immunity) as or this date?
  6. What percentage or those diagnosed with COVID-19 since July have developed antibodies to COVID-19, confirming the diagnosis?
  7. If 90%. (SAGE Minutes: 21/09/2C) of the population is still susceptible to SARS-CoV-2, why did the virus case numbers and deaths not double every 3-4 days throughout June, July and August, and indeed throughout the Autumn?
  8. Why have positive test results rocketed while numbers or symptomatic patients in the community and NHS triage data show they have flatlined since mid-September?
  9. Why are acute respiratory admissions through Accident 8 Emergency significantly below the normal for the time of year if the pandemic is still raging?
  10. Why are total hospital admissions, ICU/ITU occupancy and hospital oxygen consumption at or below normal levels for the time of year?
  11. What percentage of deaths labelled as being due to COVID-19 have had the diagnosis confirmed at post-mortem since July?
  12. Why are the regions of the country that have had excess deaths not the same regions that have supposed COVID-19 deaths, unlike in spring?
  13. Why has Liverpool testing by the Army, failed to find COVID-19 in the community when they are supposedly at the centre of the alleged "second wave"?
  14. How is a 0.22% rate of diagnosed infection in the public in Liverpool to be reconciled with the ONS prediction of 2.3% infection rates in Liverpool on 11th November based on PCR testing?
  15. Why are much quicker lateral flow tests not being prioritised for hospital admissions to prevent the standard 24-48 hour delay with PCR results and ensure that those who are positive can be isolated to prevent hospital spread?
  16. Why aren't all staff being tested by the lateral flow test to prevent the staffing crisis being caused by false positive PCR results?
  17. Do positive PCR tests for asymptomatic and symptomatic NHS staff, or anyone else, which result in them being required to self-isolate have confirmatory re-tests performed?
  18. Why is the country. in lockdown when there are no excess hospital admissions, no excess intensive care bed use and no excess death rates (by date of occurrence) in the midst of an allegedly out of control, raging pandemic?
  19. Why are we in lockdown when the Government's own Operation Cygnus pandemic plan stated that lockdown could only delay deaths by a few weeks at most?
  20. What evidence is there that lockdown has prevented more deaths than it has caused?
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2020.11.26 16:37 MyNewRedditLol 25 [M4F] #Atlanta - looking to date casually or seriously and open to fwb too I know sounds weird lol but check out what I wrote if it interests you

For fwb I am looking for someone white or latina who is disease and drug free. Open to genuinely developing a friendship too. Over 21. And is serious about meeting up and not looking to stay in the DM’s forever. I understand getting to know eachother is important so I don’t mind taking time to become comfortable. So meeting at a cafe or something is totally fine by me.
As for dating here’s a longer description
I’m 25 living near northern Atlanta.
I have a huge love for a lot of artistic types of hobbies. I love stuff like playing guitar, writing music, DIY stuff, photography, graphic design and traveling. The pandemic made that impossible for me this year. I’m like learning new things too and and am always open to new experiences and activities. With that said I love reading but a lot of the reading I do tends to be more on practical side of things like stuff I can apply to my life or just general knowledge type stuff. I am currently reading a book by the head of the world economic forum called COVID 19 the great reset, and another book I can’t exactly remember the name of now lol, but it’s on the subject of love and relationships and how to maintain them what gets them going the foundations of good ones etc etc lol I know it might sound weird but considering how I feel like most of the world inclines towards having relationships that end up failing I felt like this book is a good investment in my own future despite it sounding cheesy lol
I don’t drink almost at all but don’t mind it. I generally just have a mojito while on vacation. I done smoke either.
I just started getting back into working out, I’m enjoying it though despite it being difficult at times. I prefer cardio over lifting weights but I see lifting weights as more beneficial for me so I’m trying to do that more. Random I know lol
I’m more of a tea drinker myself than a coffee one. I like chamomile, or ginger tea but I love all teas to be honest except green, white and black tea.
As for music, my taste is literally all over the place melodic, ambient music for the most part. It can go from old to new, from popular to obscure, dancy to calm, and even music that’s not even in English.
My love languages are words of affirmation and physical touch, i don’t care for gifts. BUT I love giving them lol and I’d say I’m a good gift picker lol if I do say so myself.
In the person I look for I don’t really care about intelligence, but more so that they’re kind, loyal, have a big heart, understanding, optimistic (though this isn’t necessary), and a good listener / communicator.
I like to text regularly, and especially talk on the phone for a while too.
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2020.11.26 16:37 kingneedsadvice I (19M) am facing struggles with my mindset about Casual Sex and Promiscuity, Could y'all please help me out?

Most stories, experiences, tales I have heard begin with them kids at 16, fucking, it may be at prom or its a gf bf thing but the truth is most people start quite early. To me it sounds like youre too immature to get a real job but you wanna fuck? Even when your parents school your church advise you against it? Sounds to me like you lack character.
Most people are gonna blast at me, saying virginity is a social contruct, but no it isnt, your sex life will always be described at the point where it started, so it is an important milestone. Not enjoyable? possibly, Memorable? Definitely.
Thus giving your virginity to someone is a special thing, for them and most definitely for you! But given the statistics of probablity of anyone waiting for marriage is approaching to zero. There's a huge chance that your partner has already lost theirs, then why the hell should you make them feel special by saving yourself for them? Go give it to a whore, thats the most insignificant personn you'll ever find to give it to, so no one can hold you to it. if they werent kind enough to wait, You have no obligation either
The adventuring and exploring of bodies that most people do when they reach college, you know the 'slutty summer' or the 'hoe phase' and they end up getting 'experience' on what's good and what ain't
People are often hung up on their best experriences and if you are not a part of that exploration, I am sorry to say to your wife is getting wet thining about someone else. They'll always fondly remember who made them squirt uncontrollably for the first time adn even if the rest of their bfs did too, The person who helps them discover will always have a special place. Most people get this done by age 22, some take even less time
So if you are out there dating and eveeryone's had their best time of their life, why would anyone give a damn about an inconsequent mess like you?
You are never gonna be anyone's special because obviously they had a lot more time and curiosity and patience to figure it all out. There was no right guy to come by who they will together step into pleasureland with. If almost all of the above is true, then why give a bloody damn about being special for someone?
FUCK LOVE and abandon your morals and go engage in this senseless frenzy too
A lot of people hookup it is quite common and has beccome socially acceptable and hell even encouraged. But the message I really get from the people who engage in it is I really needed some dick in me so I got one. They could have very well masturbated But NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Now if I say judge someone by their body count,the arguements come up saying "if it was consensual then it shouldn't bother you" But the very fact that it was consensual bothers me, It mwans there were others before me,who might have been better than, yet they were dismissed for unknown reasons, so what if I am dismissed too? What if one of them comes back? The urge togo out there and randomly choose a guy to fuck didnt stop you then, What guarantee do I have now that it is no longer there? For all I know, its still there waiting in hiding. Most importantly if it didnt stop y'all back then why should it stop me now or ever? or even in relationship. I could give someone else the time of my day instead of you. why? Because i simmply want to. you had your fun. Now I am simply haviing mine! Why settle for one amirite?
I am very low on inner and outer game and I most definitely need help
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2020.11.26 16:23 iamchuckbasss If you’re reading this, congratulations you are the main character. A story about finally loving myself and all life has to offer.

TLDR at bottom. If you read the whole thing beware, lots of cursing...lots of well deserved cursing. Also if you’re feeling down today my PMs are open
Feeling thankful and want to reflect on what has been the best and happiest month of my life
Growing up I had an unreasonably negative mindset. I was a kid on a mission to find the negative in anything I could. I feel like I should say that there was nothing was wrong with me mentally. Like I didn’t have any weird rare mental illness’s or autism or anything like that. I’m not saying that people with those kind of issues act like I did, my parents just thought it was unusual to be 6 year old who thought the way I did. I was a healthy kid with loving parents. I was only ever thinking the worst. I was never mean, or had anger issues, i was a normal kid with the mind of a grumpy old woman. I don’t remember a whole lot from when I was younger but my parents said they started to notice it when I was about 6. They didn’t know if I was just being a typical bratty kid at the point or not. Let’s be real there’s not a whole lot a 6 year old can be negative about. I would get an invitation to a kids birthday party and immediately think they only invited me because they were forced to or they just gave me one so I didn’t feel left out. If I didn’t understand something in school I would cry to my parents and tell them I’ll never get it because I’m stupid, I’m going to get held back because I couldn’t pronounce all the words in my book correctly. I was a smart kid, did well in school, but was convinced I was going to fail. My parents would beg me to tell them if I was being bullied at school to try to have some reason for why I said and perceived life the way I did. This isn’t the end of the world right like I was healthy, I didn’t have depression, I was a social kid, i was apparently happy, but the negativity was always there and we all just kind of got used to it.
Once I was older and in high school is when the real stuff would come out. Yet again, my parents wondered if I was just a hormonal teenager or if I was just a genuinely negative minded person. This is when it started to affect me more because i was able to understand my feelings a bit better. I soon became extremely self conscious about my appearance for no reason other than I told myself I should feel self conscious. Basic high school things for a girl! No big deal we all go through it! But even as a child I would convince myself nobody liked me without having any reason to think that...huh?? Why?? So that’s when I started to understand that I was choosing to feel this way. I knew I had no reason to be worried about the way I look but every time I would convince myself I was fine I would immediately go straight to thinking I was just lying to myself to feel better. It was a classic case of “I have no idea what I actually look like”. I was in a constant battle with myself. I kept telling myself you don’t have to be like this. It’s easy to just be positive instead. Something just wasn’t clicking and I decided that I was just one of those people who were born miserable. I still enjoyed high school. I had a good group of friends and did all the things a normal high school kid would do. I had a negative attitude about absolutely everything, but I was good at keeping those thoughts to myself so my friends didn’t have to endure this torture with me. I was never diagnosed with depression, didn’t develop an eating disorder even with how much I hated my body, I never had problems with anyone besides my own self. This is why it’s so weird to me. I don’t know if I was lacking certain hormones to the brain, couldn’t produce the good hormones, maybe there’s a tumor on the part of my brain that can think positively, I was thinking of anything to make sense of it. Through high school and some time after I accepted whatever was going on in my head, did the best I could to see the positive in things and try to control my thoughts but no matter what I could never really get out of that negative mindset. It was always something. I was disgustingly self conscious about my looks when I didn’t even need to be, I was easily irritated, I could only focus on the cons of the college i was attending, if I didn’t hear my from parents I assumed they were cutting contact with me forever, when they did call It was always an inconvenience to me, everyone and everything sucks, I hated my body, ruined what would be a perfect date to anyone else by saying “this is nice and all but the music playing ruined it I’m leaving”. When I tell you I was negative about fucking everything.....I mean it. I was a miserable human being who wanted to be better but demons weren’t fucking around.
So it’s a year after I leave college and I’m doing the same shit but now I’m seeing a Counsler. I figure I need to so we can reset or retrain my thought process or figure out what the actual issue is if there is one or if I’m just really a miserable human being for no absolute reason. This had taken over my entire life. For what! I was smart, always thinking you don’t have to think this way try to control it, I ask myself what are the logical reasons for why you feel like this, can you justify why you’re thinking this negative thing? The more I tried to make sense of my emotions and the reasoning behind why the fuck I’m like this the negative would take over and win. I could never answer those questions. At this point I am so tired of not understanding any of this and accept the possibility that I’m just a fucking psycho, deal with it the best I can and maybe one day it’ll be better.
BUCKLE UP Okay. One month ago. I cannot make this shit up. If a higher power is indeed real, they are straight up messing with me at this point. Or I was under a curse this whole time. Or this is a giant coincidence. Or I just woke up from a coma idk.
So it’s COVID year and that’s cool cause everyone gets to feel all negative feels and shit with me. I’m not the only one. Great. I , being a bored at home twenty something girl downloads the app I swear I would never get, fucking TikTok. I’m ashamed to say I first heard the words “main character energy” on the everybody’s favorite cringey app. What is a main character energy? It’s meaningless and stupid. A trend. It was just a video of a female telling her friend she was giving off main character energy. Cool cool cool, whatever I didn’t pay a lot of attention to it since it’s just another TikTok thing Gen Z came up with. I continued to see this saying throughout my social media apps. Still didn’t think about it. Completely irrelevant. Then on this one regular boring day I was venting to my friend about how hard it is for me to say no to picking up someone’s shift because I have plans already. I just hate saying no. My friend looks at me all normal and casually says “fuck em you’re the main character you do you”.
I don’t know what kind of voodoo shit was going on but for the rest of that day all I could think about was “you’re the main character, you’re the main character”. These four RANDOM MEANINGLESS WORDS slapped me so fucking hard that I realized yes I absolutely am the main character in my life. Cool cool. Im having a positive thought about myself. Waiting on my brain to go into overdrive and do it’s thing. Instead all I’m thinking is why the fuck had I spent so many years acting like a non player character in my own life?? Any finding something negative about everything no matter how good it was?? I couldn’t come up with any good reason as to why I was refusing to allow myself to feel like anything but a extra in my own damn life. For whatever goofy ass reason these stupid, meaningless, irrelevant, beautiful four words...
The next day to now I wake up, remind myself that I AM the main character and allow myself to ENJOY ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING. I can spend time thinking about what I like about myself and not feel like I’m just being self centered. You mean I’m allowed to actually like things about myself?? Yeah I’m the main character. You mean to tell me that I can feel good about myself and what I’ve done and am doing in life??? I don’t think there’s always a negative side to things?? I was so delusional my whole life and I don’t even know why.
I highly recommend telling yourself on the daily that you’re the main character. Allow yourself to feel like the main character. That’s it that’s the mindset. That’s all you gotta do. Do things for you and only you because you want to. I’m not even sure what it exactly means but I’ve been telling myself that I’m the main character and my mentality has completely changed. I’m still going “what the fuck?” I’m shocked and sometimes feel like I’m crazy that this stupid saying, it’s not even deep or inspiring or anything, from some teenyboppers TikTok is what undid all the negative. It’s just so stupid to me that THIS, OUT OF THE HUNDREDS OF MOTIVATIONAL QUOTES, MOTIVATIONAL SPEECHES, THE EXCESSIVE NUMBER OF POSITIVE POSTS MY MOTHER SENDS ME DAILY, was the thing to open my eyes and flip the switch in my brain from always hating on myself and comparing myself and being so negative about everything to simply not giving a fuck about what people think of me, enjoying things I told myself I didn’t deserve to enjoy, learning to love myself and accepting the fact that I’m honestly just a really freaking awesome person. I promise I’m not trying to be cocky but I really do give off good vibes. Now.
If you’re struggling with not liking yourself for any reason, feel unworthy, feel like less of a person because you don’t look like this and haven’t done that in life or what have you, try to allow yourself to feel like the main character because life is too short not to be!!! How you feel like the main character in your own life is up to you. It can have different meaning for everyone. Even if you don’t struggle with these specific issues and just need to remind yourself, or others, who the fuck you are from time to time. This whole whack ass thing has convinced me we might live in a whole simulation on a giant spinning rock where nothing matters so while you’re here BE THE MAIN CHARACTER.
I am in no way a mental health specialist or doctor of any kind. I’m also not saying this is a proven technique for a better mindset. I’m not saying thinking like this will magically make everything better. I think for me my brain was tired of all the bad vibes up there and was like here have the entire dose of serotonin you didn’t get your whole life lol have fun!! I just want people to know things can, will, and do get better. I know I’m not the only person who has gone through it. Hopefully in your case you realize all these things like a normal person with the help of a therapist or a good drunken heart to heart with your best friend or by having a life changing conversation with some hobo on the train.
Since it’s Thanksgiving let me just say how incredibly thankful I am for this weird unexplained thing. I don’t even care if I sound crazy anymore. I’m so thankful that this is not another Thanksgiving where I’m telling myself over and over I was only invited over today so they wouldn’t feel guilty, they’re hoping I don’t show up, nobody is thankful for me. I will never ruin my parents Thanksgivings anymore by saying yes they cooked all this amazing food for hours for us but there’s no green bean casserole therefore this meal is ruined and I stomp to my room questioning why the fuck I just did that. Today there will be nothing but love and positivity. And lots of champagne.
Life is fucking crazy.
TL:DR - Spends most of my life in a state of constant negativity & self loathing, understands I can try to control how I think but negative thoughts win every time until my friend tells me in a casual conversation “you’re the main character” and it blows my mind so hard that I’m cured and am now dumb happy but also questioning my entire life and my sanity.
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2020.11.26 16:22 Oliveee93 None of the guys are attractive ?

I'm rewatching season 1 and I know this is all personal preferences of course, but Dan and Chuck are both incredibly unattractive in my humble opinion, especially Dan, so out of Serena's league ! I mean I get that the appeal for her is that "he's different" than most guys she dated before but still, he could've been a bit more attractive lol (he does get better in the later seasons though). I can kind of understand why girls go crazy for Chuck, but in season 1 at least I don't see it lol. Nate is definitely the best looking, but his bland personality makes him unattractive to me
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2020.11.26 16:18 memmly 38 Weeks with Covid

Earlier this week I made a post speculating on some cold like symptoms I was having and surprise, it's COVID! It really just feels like a more severe cold. Even the people who took my COVID test said they didn't think it would come back as COVID because of how mellow my symptoms have been.
Currently it only sucks the most at night and first thing in the morning when my nose is stuffy and throat super sore. Had a brief spike in temperature the other night where I went up to 100.2 F and then it was back down by morning. Haven't even lost any senses yet. Where having COVID sucks the most has to be with the dynamic that it adds to the world around me.
My husband and I have split up the house so that I have the master bath and bathroom while he has the guest room and rest of the house. I don't leave my room without my mask. Though honestly, I sometimes wear my mask in my own room. Mostly because my throat and nose feel sore with the low humidity and it actually feels better to have a mask on (pro tip right there). It's a real bummer to have to act like he could still get COVID and isolate each other. When in reality if he was going to get symptoms he probably would have had it by now. He won't hear about the results of his COVID test for a few days so we're spending Thanksgiving with this weird COVID dynamic.
Getting any kind of medical treatment right now is a pain. Yesterday I was feeling a lot of watery discharge so I called my OBG and she decided she really wanted to check on it to make sure it wasn't my water leaking. Normally this would be a quick appointment to the OGB clinic where I could be in and out in an hour or two. But because I have COVID they sent me to the hospital so that I could be in my own air sealed room. On the bright side I got to figure out what my labor room is going to look like. It was cool to see how the monitor connects up and see that my baby is doing really well. But it took a really long time just to check the fluid. We ended up being there for over 4 hours before they let us go home!
Now my hubby and I have to play this game and figure out what's going to happen if the baby comes early vs. if he comes closer to his due date. I'm already 4 cm dilated so my boy could come much sooner than his due date of December 8th. However, if he can hold off until 5 December at least then I will be 10 days past my positive COVID test and I'll have more freedom at the hospital (such as being able to have my Doula there in person).
In the meantime I feel really lucky that my COVID symptoms have been manageable. It's really frustrating that I've gotten it at all since my husband and I are super good at wearing masks and keeping away from other people. We were even at the end of a 2 week quarantine when I started showing symptoms! The only people we've been in contact over the last 2 weeks is my OBG clinic so we don't know where else I could have gotten it. While I'm bummed that our carefulness wasn't enough, I'm telling myself that it's because of my awesome masks I made that I got a lower viral load and therefore easier to manage symptoms.
Also, I'm glad I have it now vs. later after the baby being born. At least my baby can be born now with some awesome antibodies that will keep him safer in the first few months. It would be so much harder to manage COVID quarantine in the house with a newborn.
TLDR; getting COVID sucks but I have a lot to be thankful for this Thanksgiving so I'm just going to count my blessings.
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2020.11.26 16:16 barre_chord_reality Was Veronica always this defective? Contains some spoilers.

The Defective Detective trope has been around since the popularity of Sherlock Holmes. Most writers can't resist using it somehow to show that a detective can only be this good if they're some kind of social reject.
There are many examples, but a few are Wire In The Blood, Law & Order: Criminal Intent (Goren), Monk, Angel (yes, the one from Buffy)
There are many, many examples of these, and I think writers don't know how to make a detective show without it, with the exception of many Tom Barnaby from Midsomer Murders -- but back to the point of Veronica Mars and how it slowly started to circle the drain around this trope, and ultimately drowned in it.
We see elements of it when she's in high school, mostly just dumb teenaged girl things like dating a bad boy, even when it served no practical purpose to the character, or to the overall story of the show.
She even went so far to exclaim "I guess I just like bad boys!" which was super cringy, and didn't feel very organic to the character.
Fast forward to 15 years later and Veronica can't get off unless Logan is losing his temper and punching walls and cupboards.
Did she always have the traits, but they just worsened, or became magnified as she became an adult?
I think there's wiggle room for this kind of trope to make a compelling detective, but I think Veronica and the whole show became enveloped in it to the point where the mystery takes a back seat (next to the backpack) and ultimately suffers for it.
What do you think? Was it Robs intention to go all out with it, or was it a natural part of her progression, or regression?
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2020.11.26 16:15 RSR88 [FS][EU][UK] Rolex Daytona 116500 - ARF V2

Location : UK
Will ship to : EUROPE
Accepted payment methods : PAYPAL FRIENDS AND FAMILY
Piece origin : Li - JTime (Highly recommended)
What warranty will you provide ? : NONE
What kind of condition is this in ? : Worn outside twice - 10/10
Why are you selling ? : Bought this, Noob V3 (Sold yesterday), CF Bezel, gen spec gasket and gen hands (all also for sale) for a Franken project but decided against as I can put the funds to better use elsewhere.
Asking price : £400 shipped in the UK, with papers included for free. Buyer to pay for shipping in the EU.
Currency : GBP
Shipping Cost: Included in UK
Will you include handwritten tags your forum ID and today's date ? Yes
Will you tell the buyer to not write about reps or watches in the Paypal comment field or in any other place associated with the payment option ? Yes
Detailed description and photos :
Bought it on the 7th August from Li at JTime
Movement: 4130 Super Clone (sub dials at 3 & 9 stationary)
Sapphire Crystal
Price: £400
Tagged and timestamped images: https://imgur.com/a/cw13fO4
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2020.11.26 16:14 gloveisoff A little bit about the island of Bornholm, Denmark. Germanic ironage and viking age.

Source in from HERE where i like others on the island help the pros. The Bornholm Archaeological Research Center (BARC) is an organization, branch of the Museum of Bornholm, in Denmark, dedicated to the creation, dissemination, and conservation of archaeological knowledge and heritage. The BARC is home to the departmental Archaeology Program of several national and international universities. It provides a forum for innovative faculty research, graduate education, and public programs at BARC in an effort to impact positively the academic, local and global communities. BARC wants to be the forefront of archaeological research, education, conservation and publication, and also to become an active contributor to interdisciplinary research in the Baltic Region.
Germanic Iron Age (400 – 750AD) The Germanic Iron Age is divided into two periods: the early Germanic Iron Age and the Late Germanic Iron Age. As the Roman Empire was in decline an abundance of gold flowed into Scandinavia and some excellent examples of these gold artifacts from this period have been found. Most of the richness found in Bornholm for this period derives from settlements across the island but especially from Sorte Muld, the biggest central settlement in the island. Sorte Muld covers more than 1 square km, and cultural layers of up to 1,5-meter-deep, something which points at the highly active settlement. The abundant finds of gold, semi-precious stone from India, roman glass and weapons underlines its importance as a center of trade, military and belief in Scandinavia from about 500-700 AD. It has been considered that a good part of the success Sorte Muld as a trade center is due to its position in the Baltic sea and the many natural harbors on the coastline with a road, that is still visible today, leading from the coast to this site. Besides its functioning as a trade center, the discovery of more than 3000 gold-foil figures “Guldgubber”, weapons and gold ritually deposited, something that allows to consider this site as a religious center where probably the elite conducted religious practices for the society. It is still not known where the cemetery associated to Sorte Muld is located, the only location with sufficient rich graves is situated 15 km up the coast and is dated to the end of the settlements peak from 650 AD to the beginning of the Viking age and cannot be directly connected to the settlement. The cemetery, Nørre Sandegård Vest, is the biggest and wealthiest cemetery from the 6th-8th centuries in Denmark, with very well defined and highly militarized family groups and rich females’ graves.
At the end of the 7th centuries the central settlements split up into single farmsteads, but lots of the religious figures and tales from the Late Germanic Iron Age in the 8th century blended into the Viking Age and the proto-historical period, with legendary or semi-legendary oral tradition recorded a few centuries later in the Gesta Danorum, heroic legend and sagas, and an incipient tradition of primary written documents in the form of rune stones. (Links)
Viking Age Bornholm (750AD -1050AD) Vikings were societies organized around warrior aristocracies representing a decentralized form of chiefdom or stratified society, based on free landholding farmers, who formed an elite stratum controlling commoners and slaves through warrior might. Common to the Viking Age was the securing of long-distance trade and political stability, as well as the potentially disruptive forces that may destroy such political networks. This kind of decentralized political economy would need political confederacies that allowed the control of larger segments of trade routes. A Chiefdom confederacy is formed by a number of genealogically related and unrelated chiefdoms, which were unified through coercion or common agreement. Bornholm appears in the written sources for the first time as a traveler in approximate 890AD, going from Hedeby in Jutland to Truso in Poland, he wrote that Bornholm had its own king. The second-time that written sources refer to Bornholm is in Adam of Bremen’s description of Scandinavia in 1070 where Bornholm (Holmus) is described as a part of the Danish kingdom.
The Viking Age was still based on a decentralized political economy, which has only started the move towards a more centralized political economy, based on towns as administrative centers. This implies that the similarities reside in the social structure, which therefore produces a similar set of material representations. Some elements, like the use of barrows, were obviously part of an old ritual tradition, visible in the landscape, and the same is true of ship settings. On Bornholm, there are no signs of towns, barrows and rich graves are scarce as well; but the island’s role as an important location in the trade routes can be identified in the amount of silver treasures found on the island. There is approximately one Viking silver treasure found every year, and the around 130 treasures from the island makes up nearly half of the Danish Viking age silver treasures.
The riches and success of the Vikings were mainly due to new maritime and shipbuilding technologies that allowed the expansion of trade networks, as well as the formation of a semi- independent maritime economy and the contacts to the rest of Scandinavia, England and in the case of Bornholm especially the Baltic coast. It is important to consider that a big amount of the silver found in Bornholm came from the Middle East and it was most likely obtained by Vikings from Bornholm who traded with merchants of the island and the Baltic coast or along the rivers of nowadays Russia.
Vikings were also farmers and there are a lot of archaeological finds of Viking age settlements and houses in Bornholm. Archaeological remains of these settlements have been found all over the island for example nearby Runegård in Aaker, and as a matter of fact, some of the farmsteads in Bornholm today are still in the same locations as those settled during the Viking period. This recurrent settlement over previous constructions has created an overlapping, which documents the entire history of the settlements in the island and its transformation.(Links)
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2020.11.26 16:06 CapeMike SIB Blood Bowl II Legendary Edition(PS4)?

The PS Store sales are well underway, and I still have some funds just sitting there, heh.
I've played the classic board/pen-paper-dice Blood Bowl before, and the DS/3DS edition of the original Blood Bowl, though sadly, the latter was saddled with bugs and an unexplained crash issue that would just randomly dump the handheld back to it's own menu....
I've been made aware that a Blood Bowl III is on the horizon for PC/Console(?), but with no guarantee that a PS4 version would happen, it would seem to make sense to get the BB II Legendary Edition while it's own sale at such a low price(about $6 USD)!
That said, I've read a few scattered reports about some kind of glitch that renders the game's 'eternal' mode all but unplayable; granted, said reports date back to shortly after the game's release, and it's all but certain to've been fixed by now, but it does warrant attention....
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2020.11.26 16:05 liberty_or_d3ath Struggling.....I am 32 y/o male, relationship issues with my 23 y/o girlfriend.


I am going to try and explain this without making this too hard to read....I am a 32 year old male with 2 children. My older son is my non bio son, he is 10. My younger son is almost 4, he is my bio son. My self and the women i have these children with are not together. In April of 2019, we split. It was a mutual split at first. We had plans for the children and both realized that we most likely would work better as co parents as opposed to lovers. Through the months of April 2019 and July of 2019 it was back and forth on her end. She wanted to come back, but i stood my ground. We remained friends, although not close, we had some boundaries established which i thought were good. She talked about getting back together occasionally, but let it go after some time. In July of 2019 a women came up to me at the gym. At this point i have been going to the gym for years and have seen this women before. I have always had a natural attraction to her in the past, but obviously never thought anything of it due to my relationship situation at the time. As soon as she came up to me, we hit it off. We went on a date shortly after that and we both told each other that we never had a connection like this. Now, i was always honest with her at the start. I told her about my past relationship, children and everything else about my life. I was planning to sell my house and move to an apartment for the time. The house i was in was falling apart and i needed to get out from under it and i needed a fresh move. I was also in a weird spot in my life as well as far as my career path. When i met her i was a social worker and was getting pretty burned out. I made her aware of all of this at the start and she made the decision to accept a relationship with me. The relationship was like none other that i have been in in 32 years of my life. She is a 22 year old female, still in school and trying to find her way in life, but we worked great together and really supported each other, so the difference in age and so on never bothered us. BUT, i think that her and i both had these fears and never fully talked about them.

At the end of 2019, i started to have her around my kids a lot more. It was great at first. We meshed well and although some disagreements on parenting, we made it work. I was still at my job getting burned out but i told myself that at the start of 2020 the house will be on the market and i will sell it, after that i will find out what it is that i want to do with my life. I did not want to leave a job and make all these changes at the end of 2019 due to the holidays and so on. At the start of 2020 everything was still great. Then, covid came. She lives with her mother at her mothers house and her mother was not allowing her to leave and do things normally (We live in upstate NY, so restrictions were pretty serious here especially early on). We became distant through this time, but maintained contact everyday and saw each other when we could. For me this is when i started to feel changes. It was as if she did not feel the same about me anymore after we were able to reunite, even though she would tell me that she did. I realize now that i may have been projecting my own fears. I was scared. I was scared that i wouldn't be good enough for her. I felt as though my parenting would never be good enough, my love would never be good enough and no matter what i do she would never accept me for me. She would never accept the children completely and it doesn't match what she wants with her future. So i started to internalize these things and project them on to her. I think that she always felt this way, maybe not totally how i explained it, but i felt that she had many of the same fears that i had.

In June of 2020 i finally sold the house and found a new apartment. Her and I had a good plan in place. We both looked at my move as a fresh start. We decided that i would move in with the kids and towards the end of 2020, we will move her in as well. So we really started out looking at the move and my apartment as OUR place. When i first moved that is when she started to get more involved with my home life. Being a single father is tough enough as it is and on top of that, my boys can be a handful, especially for people who do not have kids. My younger son is a wild child and my older boy is going through that "pre teen" phase. I started to see the stress on her face, which made me feel like she was second guessing everything. We would have discussions about these things and i would always feel like she was holding back what her true fears are, not sure if she ready to commit to what comes with me. These feelings put me into a depression and i also started to question the relationship for myself. Her requests felt more to me like demands and i asked myself many times, do i really want to do this?

We continued this dynamic for from about July of 2020 up until now, November 2020. About 2 weeks ago we had a good turn around. We both vocalized our feelings about the relationship and how we felt unloved by each other and we started to move towards getting that spark back, which was not hard. We started leaving each other notes, texting and calling more and also trying our best to get back to spending quality time together. Through this time however, i was still in a stand still with my life and i could tell that it was bothering her. She wanted a more fair schedule with the mother of my children, better boundaries. I adhered to some of her requests but continued to beat my feet around the other things. My depression also put me into a funk and forced me to stop caring about my career and continue to put off making decisions. I was getting complacent and it was affecting us and making us complacent. She has also been getting really stressed with school and her own inner issues which she is now pushing me away from and not talking about.

A week ago was her "final straw". She was working one day last week, which i knew, but i felt like she was intentionally ignoring me and something was off. She was posting on social media all day and not responding or talking to me. So i texted her while she was working and asked her if she was ok and that she seemed distant. She told me it was about all the school work she had to get done, but i felt like there was more. I realize now that some of those feelings were things i made up in my head, but some were also true. After she got home from work we finally talked on the phone and i was a tad aggressive. I told her that i felt like something else was wrong and she wasn't telling me. After arguing for a while she told me that she needs "space" and "time apart" for herself. In past arguments i have brought this up to her, although i never wanted it, just to see what she was thinking. She would always tell me that she doesn't need it and that we can work on ourselves and each other at the same time. It felt like she did not want to give up on us when she would say these things, but this time was different.

So this time, she really means that she needs space. Unfortunately for me, or maybe fortunately, this has made me realize a lot about myself and our relationship and also what i need to do for me not only to get back on track in my life, but to get back on track for our relationship. I begged, i pleaded, i cried to her to let me have that one final chance and to not forget about the way we felt early on and even through the bad times how we still felt about each other, its always been love. I realize now that i was not doing anything in the relationship, or life, i was complacent, which isn't like me at all. I believe i was being this way due to the fears that i internalized in our relationship. She made me understand, although hard right now, that no matter what i do or what i say that she needs to make her own decision. I try telling her that i will never take her for granted again and i will make sure that the other fears and issues with us and things that she is feeling right now can be worked on. She was open to working on these just 2 weeks ago and due to my blow up last week its like it changed over night.

Through the last week of us being apart it has been quite a wild experience and i have had some conflicting emotions, which is my intention for righting this post, for help. I need some unbiased opinions at this time, because the people in my life are all telling me i am putting too much emotion into this, which i know is partly true...but i love her, like really love her to the point of i don't know what i would do without her. We had a vision that was so clear for the future and we were also enjoying the present and its almost like overnight that all changed.

She is holding strong to the needing a break thing but has not been clear. It was space, then a break, then we can talk, but not like we usually do. 3 days ago she called me as i was driving home and asked if she could come get a few things from my apartment that she needed for work. Before she grabbed them we sat on the couch and talked. I said the same things over and over that i have been saying and her face was just blank. I started to cry in her arms and she embraced me and it felt great. Although the talk did nothing, as she was leaving i asked for a kiss. She said no at first, but gave it. It was the most passionate kiss that i have gotten from her in a long time and it gave me hope. So we talked that night but it was still the same stuff, she needs a break she needs time. 2 nights later im out with a friend and as we are leaving i noticed that i did not have my apartment keys. Turns our they fell out of my jacket pocket right before i left my apartment. Guess who has the spare? She does. I thought of any different way i could get into my apartment without calling her but in the end i had to. She agreed to give me the keys and i asked her if i should bring them back to her tomorrow and she said it was up to me, so of course i said yes. Before i got to her house to get them, i asked her to leave them in the mailbox so that we didn't have to have contact. She laughed sarcastically and when i asked her why she said no reason. So i told her that i wanted to see her, so we met at the door to her house. The second she saw me that night she grabbed me and squeezed me. It was great. I asked for a kiss again but she did not want to give me one, but gave me on right as i left...again i felt great and hopeful.

The next morning i told her that i could bring the keys back to her, she agreed. I drove to her house and met her in the kitchen. We talked a bit and then we embraced each other again. Again i felt hopeful....we talked a bit told each other that we love each other and it felt great. Her birthday is today, so this was yesterday. I asked her about me giving her her gifts and seeing her and she told me she would talk to me tonight about it. I also had a trip planned for us this weekend and i asked her if i should cancel that and she told me that she would also talk about that with me tonight. Between this and our little moments that we have had i began to be hopeful tat she was "turning around". So that same day, yesterday, i decided to surprise her at work with her favorite coffee from starbucks. As soon as she saw me she ran to the door and got the drink from me. She told me that her boss was there so it had to be quick so we didn't have a moment or anything but she was very happy to see me, or at least that's how it felt. After she got out of work yesterday she texted me and told me that the gesture made her day a little better and that she was tankful. I told her that she was welcome and i said that i love her, she responded with an "i love you too." Throughout last night i was looking forward to our conversation about her birthday and the weekend trip. I waited all night and got nothing. I finally called her around 9pm last night and she answered and sounded not so good at all. She was saying all the same things to me that shes been saying, her fears about our future and her fears about us and how i have been over the last couple months. I keep asking her to be more clear and she cant. She basically says that she still loves me and still considers me her soulmate, but the things about our future together are holding her back. She also states that she is really struggling internally with some depression and anxiety of her own. So as we are talking she is starting to get annoyed with my usually shpeal, i have literally said everything that i could so i get it. So we agreed ONCE AGAIN that she needs space although i disagree. I asked her about her birthday and the trip on Saturday and she said she has to think about it still......??????????????? I'm just do conflicted and confused but i know i cant force her to turn it around. She said that if she doesn't do the trip she could see me on Saturday and hang out. Again, another conflicting statement. So we hang up the phone last night and she texted me after asking about whether or not i still wanted to go on the trip with her. I told her that i think that would be weird since it is obviously a romantic plan that i had. She seems to think that we can still do it and maintain some kind of boundaries? Of course my sorry ass agreed to this and now im waiting for her to get back to me with an answer.

Basically im looking for advice from anyone that understands maybe what she is thinking right now. Someone who can give me insight into a similar situation. Also....am I doing too much? Its really hard for me to back off but i told myself today that i am going to start doing that. I pray and hope everyday that she gives us one more chance, but i am loosing my mind with it all. I just really love her, miss her and have a lot of regrets. I also know deep in my heart and soul that we can make this work, our chemistry is still strong, our bond is still strong, we just have some things to figure out and we also need to re establish our foundation. Please someone! any feedback would help! thank you so much!

tl;dr I am losing the love of my life despite every effort and i need some advice!!
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2020.11.26 16:04 roundhouse1000 The resale value on these drops faster than a drunk prom dates panties. Now that you can pick one up with high miles from a note lot cheaper than a base model Honda Civic, this kind of stuff is bound to happen.

The resale value on these drops faster than a drunk prom dates panties. Now that you can pick one up with high miles from a note lot cheaper than a base model Honda Civic, this kind of stuff is bound to happen. submitted by roundhouse1000 to Shitty_Car_Mods [link] [comments]


2020.11.26 16:01 liberty_or_d3ath Any advice? 32 y/o male losing the love of his life, 23 y/o female.


I am going to try and explain this without making this too hard to read....I am a 32 year old male with 2 children. My older son is my non bio son, he is 10. My younger son is almost 4, he is my bio son. My self and the women i have these children with are not together. In April of 2019, we split. It was a mutual split at first. We had plans for the children and both realized that we most likely would work better as co parents as opposed to lovers. Through the months of April 2019 and July of 2019 it was back and forth on her end. She wanted to come back, but i stood my ground. We remained friends, although not close, we had some boundaries established which i thought were good. She talked about getting back together occasionally, but let it go after some time. In July of 2019 a women came up to me at the gym. At this point i have been going to the gym for years and have seen this women before. I have always had a natural attraction to her in the past, but obviously never thought anything of it due to my relationship situation at the time. As soon as she came up to me, we hit it off. We went on a date shortly after that and we both told each other that we never had a connection like this. Now, i was always honest with her at the start. I told her about my past relationship, children and everything else about my life. I was planning to sell my house and move to an apartment for the time. The house i was in was falling apart and i needed to get out from under it and i needed a fresh move. I was also in a weird spot in my life as well as far as my career path. When i met her i was a social worker and was getting pretty burned out. I made her aware of all of this at the start and she made the decision to accept a relationship with me. The relationship was like none other that i have been in in 32 years of my life. She is a 22 year old female, still in school and trying to find her way in life, but we worked great together and really supported each other, so the difference in age and so on never bothered us. BUT, i think that her and i both had these fears and never fully talked about them.

At the end of 2019, i started to have her around my kids a lot more. It was great at first. We meshed well and although some disagreements on parenting, we made it work. I was still at my job getting burned out but i told myself that at the start of 2020 the house will be on the market and i will sell it, after that i will find out what it is that i want to do with my life. I did not want to leave a job and make all these changes at the end of 2019 due to the holidays and so on. At the start of 2020 everything was still great. Then, covid came. She lives with her mother at her mothers house and her mother was not allowing her to leave and do things normally (We live in upstate NY, so restrictions were pretty serious here especially early on). We became distant through this time, but maintained contact everyday and saw each other when we could. For me this is when i started to feel changes. It was as if she did not feel the same about me anymore after we were able to reunite, even though she would tell me that she did. I realize now that i may have been projecting my own fears. I was scared. I was scared that i wouldn't be good enough for her. I felt as though my parenting would never be good enough, my love would never be good enough and no matter what i do she would never accept me for me. She would never accept the children completely and it doesn't match what she wants with her future. So i started to internalize these things and project them on to her. I think that she always felt this way, maybe not totally how i explained it, but i felt that she had many of the same fears that i had.

In June of 2020 i finally sold the house and found a new apartment. Her and I had a good plan in place. We both looked at my move as a fresh start. We decided that i would move in with the kids and towards the end of 2020, we will move her in as well. So we really started out looking at the move and my apartment as OUR place. When i first moved that is when she started to get more involved with my home life. Being a single father is tough enough as it is and on top of that, my boys can be a handful, especially for people who do not have kids. My younger son is a wild child and my older boy is going through that "pre teen" phase. I started to see the stress on her face, which made me feel like she was second guessing everything. We would have discussions about these things and i would always feel like she was holding back what her true fears are, not sure if she ready to commit to what comes with me. These feelings put me into a depression and i also started to question the relationship for myself. Her requests felt more to me like demands and i asked myself many times, do i really want to do this?

We continued this dynamic for from about July of 2020 up until now, November 2020. About 2 weeks ago we had a good turn around. We both vocalized our feelings about the relationship and how we felt unloved by each other and we started to move towards getting that spark back, which was not hard. We started leaving each other notes, texting and calling more and also trying our best to get back to spending quality time together. Through this time however, i was still in a stand still with my life and i could tell that it was bothering her. She wanted a more fair schedule with the mother of my children, better boundaries. I adhered to some of her requests but continued to beat my feet around the other things. My depression also put me into a funk and forced me to stop caring about my career and continue to put off making decisions. I was getting complacent and it was affecting us and making us complacent. She has also been getting really stressed with school and her own inner issues which she is now pushing me away from and not talking about.

A week ago was her "final straw". She was working one day last week, which i knew, but i felt like she was intentionally ignoring me and something was off. She was posting on social media all day and not responding or talking to me. So i texted her while she was working and asked her if she was ok and that she seemed distant. She told me it was about all the school work she had to get done, but i felt like there was more. I realize now that some of those feelings were things i made up in my head, but some were also true. After she got home from work we finally talked on the phone and i was a tad aggressive. I told her that i felt like something else was wrong and she wasn't telling me. After arguing for a while she told me that she needs "space" and "time apart" for herself. In past arguments i have brought this up to her, although i never wanted it, just to see what she was thinking. She would always tell me that she doesn't need it and that we can work on ourselves and each other at the same time. It felt like she did not want to give up on us when she would say these things, but this time was different.

So this time, she really means that she needs space. Unfortunately for me, or maybe fortunately, this has made me realize a lot about myself and our relationship and also what i need to do for me not only to get back on track in my life, but to get back on track for our relationship. I begged, i pleaded, i cried to her to let me have that one final chance and to not forget about the way we felt early on and even through the bad times how we still felt about each other, its always been love. I realize now that i was not doing anything in the relationship, or life, i was complacent, which isn't like me at all. I believe i was being this way due to the fears that i internalized in our relationship. She made me understand, although hard right now, that no matter what i do or what i say that she needs to make her own decision. I try telling her that i will never take her for granted again and i will make sure that the other fears and issues with us and things that she is feeling right now can be worked on. She was open to working on these just 2 weeks ago and due to my blow up last week its like it changed over night.

Through the last week of us being apart it has been quite a wild experience and i have had some conflicting emotions, which is my intention for righting this post, for help. I need some unbiased opinions at this time, because the people in my life are all telling me i am putting too much emotion into this, which i know is partly true...but i love her, like really love her to the point of i don't know what i would do without her. We had a vision that was so clear for the future and we were also enjoying the present and its almost like overnight that all changed.

She is holding strong to the needing a break thing but has not been clear. It was space, then a break, then we can talk, but not like we usually do. 3 days ago she called me as i was driving home and asked if she could come get a few things from my apartment that she needed for work. Before she grabbed them we sat on the couch and talked. I said the same things over and over that i have been saying and her face was just blank. I started to cry in her arms and she embraced me and it felt great. Although the talk did nothing, as she was leaving i asked for a kiss. She said no at first, but gave it. It was the most passionate kiss that i have gotten from her in a long time and it gave me hope. So we talked that night but it was still the same stuff, she needs a break she needs time. 2 nights later im out with a friend and as we are leaving i noticed that i did not have my apartment keys. Turns our they fell out of my jacket pocket right before i left my apartment. Guess who has the spare? She does. I thought of any different way i could get into my apartment without calling her but in the end i had to. She agreed to give me the keys and i asked her if i should bring them back to her tomorrow and she said it was up to me, so of course i said yes. Before i got to her house to get them, i asked her to leave them in the mailbox so that we didn't have to have contact. She laughed sarcastically and when i asked her why she said no reason. So i told her that i wanted to see her, so we met at the door to her house. The second she saw me that night she grabbed me and squeezed me. It was great. I asked for a kiss again but she did not want to give me one, but gave me on right as i left...again i felt great and hopeful.

The next morning i told her that i could bring the keys back to her, she agreed. I drove to her house and met her in the kitchen. We talked a bit and then we embraced each other again. Again i felt hopeful....we talked a bit told each other that we love each other and it felt great. Her birthday is today, so this was yesterday. I asked her about me giving her her gifts and seeing her and she told me she would talk to me tonight about it. I also had a trip planned for us this weekend and i asked her if i should cancel that and she told me that she would also talk about that with me tonight. Between this and our little moments that we have had i began to be hopeful tat she was "turning around". So that same day, yesterday, i decided to surprise her at work with her favorite coffee from starbucks. As soon as she saw me she ran to the door and got the drink from me. She told me that her boss was there so it had to be quick so we didn't have a moment or anything but she was very happy to see me, or at least that's how it felt. After she got out of work yesterday she texted me and told me that the gesture made her day a little better and that she was tankful. I told her that she was welcome and i said that i love her, she responded with an "i love you too." Throughout last night i was looking forward to our conversation about her birthday and the weekend trip. I waited all night and got nothing. I finally called her around 9pm last night and she answered and sounded not so good at all. She was saying all the same things to me that shes been saying, her fears about our future and her fears about us and how i have been over the last couple months. I keep asking her to be more clear and she cant. She basically says that she still loves me and still considers me her soulmate, but the things about our future together are holding her back. She also states that she is really struggling internally with some depression and anxiety of her own. So as we are talking she is starting to get annoyed with my usually shpeal, i have literally said everything that i could so i get it. So we agreed ONCE AGAIN that she needs space although i disagree. I asked her about her birthday and the trip on Saturday and she said she has to think about it still......??????????????? I'm just do conflicted and confused but i know i cant force her to turn it around. She said that if she doesn't do the trip she could see me on Saturday and hang out. Again, another conflicting statement. So we hang up the phone last night and she texted me after asking about whether or not i still wanted to go on the trip with her. I told her that i think that would be weird since it is obviously a romantic plan that i had. She seems to think that we can still do it and maintain some kind of boundaries? Of course my sorry ass agreed to this and now im waiting for her to get back to me with an answer.

Basically im looking for advice from anyone that understands maybe what she is thinking right now. Someone who can give me insight into a similar situation. Also....am I doing too much? Its really hard for me to back off but i told myself today that i am going to start doing that. I pray and hope everyday that she gives us one more chance, but i am loosing my mind with it all. I just really love her, miss her and have a lot of regrets. I also know deep in my heart and soul that we can make this work, our chemistry is still strong, our bond is still strong, we just have some things to figure out and we also need to re establish our foundation. Please someone! any feedback would help! thank you so much!

tl;dr I am losing the love of my life despite every effort and i need some advice!!
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2020.11.26 15:59 Wolf845 Very lost in building, help would be much appreciated :]

What will you be doing with this PC? Be as specific as possible, and include specific games or programs you will be using.
What is your maximum budget before rebates/shipping/taxes?
When do you plan on building/buying the PC? Note: beyond a week or two from today means any build you receive will be out of date when you want to buy.
What, exactly, do you need included in the budget? (ToweOS/monitokeyboard/mouse/etc)
Which country (and state/province) will you be purchasing the parts in? If you're in US, do you have access to a Microcenter location?
If reusing any parts (including monitor(s)/keyboard/mouse/etc), what parts will you be reusing? Brands and models are appreciated.
Will you be overclocking? If yes, are you interested in overclocking right away, or down the line? CPU and/or GPU?
Are there any specific features or items you want/need in the build? (ex: SSD, large amount of storage or a RAID setup, CUDA or OpenCL support, etc)
Do you have any specific case preferences (Size like ITX/microATX/mid-towefull-tower, styles, colors, window or not, LED lighting, etc), or a particular color theme preference for the components?
Do you need a copy of Windows included in the budget? If you do need one included, do you have a preference?
Extra info or particulars:
Eventually want to get a 3070, but cannot wait til they actually have a surplus.
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2020.11.26 15:59 liberty_or_d3ath I 32(M) year old male, am losing my 23(F) year old girlfriend and need help.

I am going to try and explain this without making this too hard to read....I am a 32 year old male with 2 children. My older son is my non bio son, he is 10. My younger son is almost 4, he is my bio son. My self and the women i have these children with are not together. In April of 2019, we split. It was a mutual split at first. We had plans for the children and both realized that we most likely would work better as co parents as opposed to lovers. Through the months of April 2019 and July of 2019 it was back and forth on her end. She wanted to come back, but i stood my ground. We remained friends, although not close, we had some boundaries established which i thought were good. She talked about getting back together occasionally, but let it go after some time. In July of 2019 a women came up to me at the gym. At this point i have been going to the gym for years and have seen this women before. I have always had a natural attraction to her in the past, but obviously never thought anything of it due to my relationship situation at the time. As soon as she came up to me, we hit it off. We went on a date shortly after that and we both told each other that we never had a connection like this. Now, i was always honest with her at the start. I told her about my past relationship, children and everything else about my life. I was planning to sell my house and move to an apartment for the time. The house i was in was falling apart and i needed to get out from under it and i needed a fresh move. I was also in a weird spot in my life as well as far as my career path. When i met her i was a social worker and was getting pretty burned out. I made her aware of all of this at the start and she made the decision to accept a relationship with me. The relationship was like none other that i have been in in 32 years of my life. She is a 22 year old female, still in school and trying to find her way in life, but we worked great together and really supported each other, so the difference in age and so on never bothered us. BUT, i think that her and i both had these fears and never fully talked about them.

At the end of 2019, i started to have her around my kids a lot more. It was great at first. We meshed well and although some disagreements on parenting, we made it work. I was still at my job getting burned out but i told myself that at the start of 2020 the house will be on the market and i will sell it, after that i will find out what it is that i want to do with my life. I did not want to leave a job and make all these changes at the end of 2019 due to the holidays and so on. At the start of 2020 everything was still great. Then, covid came. She lives with her mother at her mothers house and her mother was not allowing her to leave and do things normally (We live in upstate NY, so restrictions were pretty serious here especially early on). We became distant through this time, but maintained contact everyday and saw each other when we could. For me this is when i started to feel changes. It was as if she did not feel the same about me anymore after we were able to reunite, even though she would tell me that she did. I realize now that i may have been projecting my own fears. I was scared. I was scared that i wouldn't be good enough for her. I felt as though my parenting would never be good enough, my love would never be good enough and no matter what i do she would never accept me for me. She would never accept the children completely and it doesn't match what she wants with her future. So i started to internalize these things and project them on to her. I think that she always felt this way, maybe not totally how i explained it, but i felt that she had many of the same fears that i had.

In June of 2020 i finally sold the house and found a new apartment. Her and I had a good plan in place. We both looked at my move as a fresh start. We decided that i would move in with the kids and towards the end of 2020, we will move her in as well. So we really started out looking at the move and my apartment as OUR place. When i first moved that is when she started to get more involved with my home life. Being a single father is tough enough as it is and on top of that, my boys can be a handful, especially for people who do not have kids. My younger son is a wild child and my older boy is going through that "pre teen" phase. I started to see the stress on her face, which made me feel like she was second guessing everything. We would have discussions about these things and i would always feel like she was holding back what her true fears are, not sure if she ready to commit to what comes with me. These feelings put me into a depression and i also started to question the relationship for myself. Her requests felt more to me like demands and i asked myself many times, do i really want to do this?

We continued this dynamic for from about July of 2020 up until now, November 2020. About 2 weeks ago we had a good turn around. We both vocalized our feelings about the relationship and how we felt unloved by each other and we started to move towards getting that spark back, which was not hard. We started leaving each other notes, texting and calling more and also trying our best to get back to spending quality time together. Through this time however, i was still in a stand still with my life and i could tell that it was bothering her. She wanted a more fair schedule with the mother of my children, better boundaries. I adhered to some of her requests but continued to beat my feet around the other things. My depression also put me into a funk and forced me to stop caring about my career and continue to put off making decisions. I was getting complacent and it was affecting us and making us complacent. She has also been getting really stressed with school and her own inner issues which she is now pushing me away from and not talking about.

A week ago was her "final straw". She was working one day last week, which i knew, but i felt like she was intentionally ignoring me and something was off. She was posting on social media all day and not responding or talking to me. So i texted her while she was working and asked her if she was ok and that she seemed distant. She told me it was about all the school work she had to get done, but i felt like there was more. I realize now that some of those feelings were things i made up in my head, but some were also true. After she got home from work we finally talked on the phone and i was a tad aggressive. I told her that i felt like something else was wrong and she wasn't telling me. After arguing for a while she told me that she needs "space" and "time apart" for herself. In past arguments i have brought this up to her, although i never wanted it, just to see what she was thinking. She would always tell me that she doesn't need it and that we can work on ourselves and each other at the same time. It felt like she did not want to give up on us when she would say these things, but this time was different.

So this time, she really means that she needs space. Unfortunately for me, or maybe fortunately, this has made me realize a lot about myself and our relationship and also what i need to do for me not only to get back on track in my life, but to get back on track for our relationship. I begged, i pleaded, i cried to her to let me have that one final chance and to not forget about the way we felt early on and even through the bad times how we still felt about each other, its always been love. I realize now that i was not doing anything in the relationship, or life, i was complacent, which isn't like me at all. I believe i was being this way due to the fears that i internalized in our relationship. She made me understand, although hard right now, that no matter what i do or what i say that she needs to make her own decision. I try telling her that i will never take her for granted again and i will make sure that the other fears and issues with us and things that she is feeling right now can be worked on. She was open to working on these just 2 weeks ago and due to my blow up last week its like it changed over night.

Through the last week of us being apart it has been quite a wild experience and i have had some conflicting emotions, which is my intention for righting this post, for help. I need some unbiased opinions at this time, because the people in my life are all telling me i am putting too much emotion into this, which i know is partly true...but i love her, like really love her to the point of i don't know what i would do without her. We had a vision that was so clear for the future and we were also enjoying the present and its almost like overnight that all changed.

She is holding strong to the needing a break thing but has not been clear. It was space, then a break, then we can talk, but not like we usually do. 3 days ago she called me as i was driving home and asked if she could come get a few things from my apartment that she needed for work. Before she grabbed them we sat on the couch and talked. I said the same things over and over that i have been saying and her face was just blank. I started to cry in her arms and she embraced me and it felt great. Although the talk did nothing, as she was leaving i asked for a kiss. She said no at first, but gave it. It was the most passionate kiss that i have gotten from her in a long time and it gave me hope. So we talked that night but it was still the same stuff, she needs a break she needs time. 2 nights later im out with a friend and as we are leaving i noticed that i did not have my apartment keys. Turns our they fell out of my jacket pocket right before i left my apartment. Guess who has the spare? She does. I thought of any different way i could get into my apartment without calling her but in the end i had to. She agreed to give me the keys and i asked her if i should bring them back to her tomorrow and she said it was up to me, so of course i said yes. Before i got to her house to get them, i asked her to leave them in the mailbox so that we didn't have to have contact. She laughed sarcastically and when i asked her why she said no reason. So i told her that i wanted to see her, so we met at the door to her house. The second she saw me that night she grabbed me and squeezed me. It was great. I asked for a kiss again but she did not want to give me one, but gave me on right as i left...again i felt great and hopeful.

The next morning i told her that i could bring the keys back to her, she agreed. I drove to her house and met her in the kitchen. We talked a bit and then we embraced each other again. Again i felt hopeful....we talked a bit told each other that we love each other and it felt great. Her birthday is today, so this was yesterday. I asked her about me giving her her gifts and seeing her and she told me she would talk to me tonight about it. I also had a trip planned for us this weekend and i asked her if i should cancel that and she told me that she would also talk about that with me tonight. Between this and our little moments that we have had i began to be hopeful tat she was "turning around". So that same day, yesterday, i decided to surprise her at work with her favorite coffee from starbucks. As soon as she saw me she ran to the door and got the drink from me. She told me that her boss was there so it had to be quick so we didn't have a moment or anything but she was very happy to see me, or at least that's how it felt. After she got out of work yesterday she texted me and told me that the gesture made her day a little better and that she was tankful. I told her that she was welcome and i said that i love her, she responded with an "i love you too." Throughout last night i was looking forward to our conversation about her birthday and the weekend trip. I waited all night and got nothing. I finally called her around 9pm last night and she answered and sounded not so good at all. She was saying all the same things to me that shes been saying, her fears about our future and her fears about us and how i have been over the last couple months. I keep asking her to be more clear and she cant. She basically says that she still loves me and still considers me her soulmate, but the things about our future together are holding her back. She also states that she is really struggling internally with some depression and anxiety of her own. So as we are talking she is starting to get annoyed with my usually shpeal, i have literally said everything that i could so i get it. So we agreed ONCE AGAIN that she needs space although i disagree. I asked her about her birthday and the trip on Saturday and she said she has to think about it still......??????????????? I'm just do conflicted and confused but i know i cant force her to turn it around. She said that if she doesn't do the trip she could see me on Saturday and hang out. Again, another conflicting statement. So we hang up the phone last night and she texted me after asking about whether or not i still wanted to go on the trip with her. I told her that i think that would be weird since it is obviously a romantic plan that i had. She seems to think that we can still do it and maintain some kind of boundaries? Of course my sorry ass agreed to this and now im waiting for her to get back to me with an answer.

Basically im looking for advice from anyone that understands maybe what she is thinking right now. Someone who can give me insight into a similar situation. Also....am I doing too much? Its really hard for me to back off but i told myself today that i am going to start doing that. I pray and hope everyday that she gives us one more chance, but i am loosing my mind with it all. I just really love her, miss her and have a lot of regrets. I also know deep in my heart and soul that we can make this work, our chemistry is still strong, our bond is still strong, we just have some things to figure out and we also need to re establish our foundation. Please someone! any feedback would help! thank you so much!

tl;dr I am losing the love of my life despite every effort and i need some advice!!
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2020.11.26 15:59 kbhtech INTP looking for EXTJ

My favorite photo, dated 2014.
Long winded introvert that takes part in a lot of rambles online. Prefers to have short to medium hair that doesn't have to be brushed. Keeps a small beard (nothing too thick). Participates in interviews while looking messy and yet professional. I am a marksman at reading in between the lines and usually extremely quiet and collective.
Enjoy big picture thinkers or those that can watch my back with some of that quick-wit. I am always partaking in some sort of practice in semantics whether through discussion, computer programming, legal research, and more....

[ Current goal ]

Find myself in a productive environment with work seems to be my first priority at the time.

[ My worst quality ]

Someone that I am with should exhibit a good sense of judgement considering that I am always rambling in my thoughts, silent, and whenever out there quiet as well as collective. If you do not have a connection with me this isn't going to work. Don't leave my weaknesses in the abyss. Escaping that place is tough!

[ My style can be described as ]

I am both, an open minded individual and think tank!
I do not abandon my friends even if we've had a relationship together. My Facebook block list was kept empty since 2009.
Like to play pool.
Maynard James Keenan, David Draiman, and Corey Taylor are my three favorite singers! (highly skilled). I appreciate a variety of musical genre's.
Spend most of my time researching political news, filing for jobs, updating and revising my profiles, writing software on my computer, reading blogs and articles, or likewise on Facebook. Especially in the MBTI communities. Enjoy reads from the NCBI. Take interest in a lot of studies in my personal time.
Drinks a lot of coffee.

[ I value ]

I take my friends seriously and certainly hope that you do!
Mine have proven themselves beyond act or desire. It was something that they were willing to do in the constructs of their design. That is something that I have to love because there is no way in hell that they could be ignored. They come in few but mean many.... Just can't question them.

[ I spend a lot of time thinking about ]

MBTI, Jung Philosophy, Legal Philosophy, Psychology, Computer Programming, Relationships, Socionics, Biology, Genomics, Epigenomics, Nutrigenomics, Pharmacogenomics, Neuroscience, Consciousness, Emotional Problems, Dabrowski's Theory of Positive Disintegration...

[ A perfect day ]

The perfect day would be the moment that we have something serious and have questions to ask before committing to ea. other where the two of us are in a cuddle of talk, talk, talk, kiss, talk, kiss, talk, talk, kiss, talk, kiss, and just before that compassionate sex. It happens without making something happen.

[ The most private thing I'm willing to admit ]

The most private thing I'm willing to admit. Kind of have this need to bathe with another. Don't get me wrong. I am not filthy. I take a bath on my own terms once every three days or so. Would like to improve hygienically with someone that has high standards. Heck? We could get a jacuzzi someday and just mellow out in the tub.

[ What I'm actually looking for ]

You've made it this far!
I do not like online dating, find it unnatural.
In a world where time and connection heals, the little things give you away, and linguistics is key.... I would rather take things for what they are. It means a lot.
Nobody likes being a half wit.
Feel free: https://www.facebook.com/kevin.b.harris1
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2020.11.26 15:55 Reasonable_Fuel_5744 I am sick and tired of people who use me for my parents' money

Throwaway account because I am going to rant a little bit.
I am sick and tired of so-called ambitious people from working/middle class who want to date/befriend me because of my family's money. I have been dealing with this type of people my whole adult life, but it is still painful.
There is a pattern: I meet a nice, friendly person who seems to have so much in common with me. I begin to like them, develop a romantic relationship/friendship with them, and genuinely care about them ... until I realize they have been using me the whole time. They see me as a tool to be used, a trophy, a ticket to their better future, but not as a real person.
Whenever this happens, it really destroys my confidence and traumatizes me. Now I wonder if anybody, other than my own family, has ever liked me for who I am. Am I that unlikeable? I think I am a loving, kind person... Is that not enough?
This is depressing and seriously affecting my mental health in negative ways (trust issues).
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2020.11.26 15:55 arclightmagus The Elements (Collective - Part 3)

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Borlian Aligned Tribes - Borlian Homeworld - Xeno-Confederacy Planetary Offices
Ambassador Patrick “Mac” MacDonald slumped into his chair. That had been the third long holo call today discussing the new governance status of the sentients formerly under Borlian authority.
Since the founding of the Xeno-Confederacy some three weeks prior with the agreement of an alliance between the human Third Sol Empire, the Borlian Aligned Tribes, and the Capy Territories as well as several other species who controlled minor segments of the Collective-Imperial border, Mac and the whole of the imperial diplomatic corps had been dealing with more treaties, trade agreements, and species governance discussions than any would have expected as little as four years ago, when the diplomatic corps mostly existed to negotiate between planetary enemies and even then only if both sides petitioned for it.
With the establishment of the Xeno-Confederacy, the humans had demanded the liberation of entire subservient but sentient beings to be permitted self-determination. With that, the entire economic system of the Borlian Aligned Tribes had to be reworked, to much more closely mirror the human system. While the Borlian economists were not especially happy with this turn of events, to say nothing of the few Borlian oligarchs, who saw more than half of their investments turn into little more than dust in an interstellar wind over the course of days, the general population of the Borlians seemed supportive. After all, a week after the alliance was made, the first human-built fusion and fission generation systems arrived and was instantly at full capacity, producing materials and human-equivalent fabricators, which were then being flown around the Borlian systems to begin the new process.
Mac let out a stream of air as he considered all of this. Four years ago, he’d been just another desk clerk. And here he was, Ambassador for the Empress, husband to a Blingoth, and negotiator and coordinator of trillions of beings. It seemed a sort of impossible dream that he might wake up from. And some days, he feared he might wake up, others, he dared to hope that if this was a dream, he should never wake up, lest it be lost.
The door chimed and without even a pause, in walked Hiram Rickover, Mac’s aide. When he’d first arrived to Mac aboard their station at the Collective-Imperial Border, Mac was certain that Hiram was as unchanging and unfeeling as a rod of hydrogen at zero Kelvin. Since then, much had changed between them, and Hiram himself had become a ‘strengthmate’ to one of the Borlian representatives, whom Hiram and Mac had nicknamed Munin, owing to a lack of the proper vocal structures for Borlian names.
“You’re not due on another call for two hours. I suggest you grab some lunch and possibly a nap in the meantime,” Hiram said, not quite all business.
“How did we get here?” Mac mused aloud.
“What do you mean, Mac?” Hiram asked quizzically.
“It just hit me. I’m the most experienced xeno-ambassador humanity has and a few years ago, I wasn’t even that. Now I’m helping beings decide the fates of their entire species,” Mac said, gesturing vaguely out of the window, spinning his chair a bit.
“And you think I expected to be a strengthmate to Munin and have an apparent pseudo-status as a geneseed carrier, even though I’m not a proper Borlian?” Hiram asked, somewhat rhetorically.
The pair seemed to consider this for a moment, before Mac pushed himself up from his chair and wandered out to the common area where the fabricator was. The other primary Borlian representatives, Rory and Marco, were in the process of working out some of the latest figures from the economic projections. Oorak, a Blingoth and Mac’s wife of two weeks (although they had been near constant companions since his arrival in Collective space and their subsequent flight from Collective space), was not present, but Mac expected that she too had plenty of work to be done. As a former Collective Council representative, she was still trying to aid what remained of her free people within the Empire by acting as an agent between them and the humans where necessary.
Mac began dialing up some food, paused, changed his mind, and began dialing up a different menu. Without turning, he called over to Rory and Marco.
“How’s the economic shift coming?” he asked.
“Slowly and we’re definitely getting into some reserves that we hadn’t anticipated, but by making a few basic restrictions until we get the next set of mass fusion systems into place, we should be ok,” Rory said, dropping two of the tablets he had been holding with two of his four arms.
“I still think we missed something and we’re going to end up in trouble somewhere as a result,” Marco chimed in, his Terran Standard tones coming along quite nicely.
“How much margin for error did you leave?” Hiram asked, taking a moment to punch in a few things of his own into the fabricator order.
“Margin for error? Why wouldn’t you simply do the sums?” Marco asked as though the concept had never been thought of before.
“Always allow for error and the unknown, especially with planetary politics being what they so often are,” Mac said simply.
Mac and Hiram knew better than most the difficulties of planetary politics, even within the Empire. But even with those complications, the High Imperial space elevators on almost every settled world in the human empire was considered verging on sacred ground where planetary politics were concerned. And while the local citizens might often see the Empire itself as bloated and having no place in their local politics and power plays, none could say that they did not benefit from the massive economic engine of the Empire, if only in ensuring that all beings within the Empire had the basic necessities of life and an assurance of self-determination.
The Borlians, in contrast, operated on an elevated tribal system, systems being controlled by one of the sixteen tribes, one for each finger on a Borlian. This meant that there was only a tenuous overarching system as it relied heavily on the agreements and debates of the Borlian Council, but planetary specific politics was an understandably foreign concept to the Borlians. But with the liberation of no less than fifteen systems from the Borlians to the local sentient species, inter-system and inter-species politics was becoming a huge item for discussion and debate.
Luckily for the Borlians, with the events of Avorias 15 and the almost-concurrent attack by the Dregwer in the Borlian homesystem, Mac and company had decided to stick around the homeworld for a bit, and with some careful negotiating, courtesy of Marco, they had been able to establish some alliance specific offices near the governance district in the council city. And so the whole group had been working at an almost feverish pace, keeping track of fabricator productions, distributions, economic transitions, and more.
In executing the economic transition and species liberation, Imperial Intelligence had provided some of the most complex math that Hiram had ever seen in exactly what would need to be produced from day 1 upon arrival and activation of the fusion/fission mass generator and fabricator. And yet, it seemed to be working. Having created a Type 32 Fabricator with Matter Recombinator for deployment to each inhabited world, with the expressed purpose of using them to produce Type 37 Personal Fabricators with Matter Recominators, seemed to be working. The only problems were getting the personal fabricators and the ‘how to use these’ guides out to the people.
Thanks to some rather smart Borlians and several of the crew of the ambassadorial vessel IMS The Lion, Witcher, and The Wardrobe, every fabricator was being produced with a basic set of Borlian foods, beverages, and goods templates. This at least ensured that, while the fabricators couldn’t necessarily produce everything a Borlian could conceivably want for, no Borlian would starve for lacking access to food, given that, with the liberation of several of their slave caste species, the Borlians had lost access to massive farm worlds, which would have doomed most societies or at least many beings to a slow death.
For their part in all of this, the crew of The Lion, Witcher, and The Wardrobe had been spending much of the last three weeks helping with the arrival of the human-built systems as well as conducting extensive martial discussions with various military champions among the Borlians. Shortly before and continuing after, Mac had made special efforts to include the crew on the foodstuffs and various species specific goods of the Borlians, sending up shuttle after shuttle to the crew. While there were some who would have been contented simply to enjoy the various goods and foodstuffs immediately, several had the bright idea to template scan all of the items and then offer up those templates to the whole of the Empire, for a reasonable price, with the profits being spread to every member of the crew.
To date, the crew could have been said to be one of the wealthiest in the entirety of the Imperial Navy, but since Mac and Hiram arranged with their Captain-pro-tem Commander Bly Titanus for shoreleave of the crew to the homeworld below, the crew had been spending their new found fortunes rather quickly on the various sights, dramas, tales, and experiences that could only be found on a Borlian world. Mac was personally using his wealth to rent this particular set of offices from the Council at a rate that had made the eyes water until you looked at the Imperial Bank account that it was being paid out of with enough zeros in Solar Credits to make the eyes bulge.
“I think Intelligence factored in a five percent margin. It’s what I would have done if it were my figures,” Hiram said, a former Intelligence analyst before he came to work for the Ambassador.
“What does five percent equate to?” Rory asked, his four eyes just on this side of spinning from looking at numbers, charts, and graphs for so long.
“For Borlian territory? Probably about three systems worth, give or take a world,” Hiram said, doublechecking his math in his head.
Behind Hiram, the fabricator hummed as it began processing the lunch order. Marco’s eyes seemed to twitch.
“You… you mean to say that your economic projections allowed for another three systems worth of beings?” he stuttered out. Hiram merely nodded back.
It seemed that Marco was some sort of exasperated, looking between Rory, the tablets that Marco was holding, Hiram, and around the room in general, as though trying to make sense of it all. It wasn’t until the fabricator stopped humming and Mac withdrew his tray of various foods and a tall glass of steaming green liquid and sat down next to Rory that Marco seemed to find words again.
“How, in the names of the ancestors, did you manage to get those projections and did you get that sort of additional production capacity?” Marco finally asked.
“Imperial Intelligence doesn’t tell me everything and I’m rather grateful that they don’t,” Mac replied simply, opting to manipulate his food with his fingers instead of the provided utensils that the fabricator had appended automatically.
“But production capacity doesn’t just happen,” Marco tried again.
Hiram picked up one of the tablets that Rory had been holding and scanned it for a long few moments, the only other major sounds being Mac’s consumption of lunch. Setting the tablet back on the table and going to the fabricator and taking a large beverage container from it, he looked back at Marco.
“I think you may have forgotten the deployment of the Gate Five fabricator. That should give you some of that margin and I think there’s probably also a little fudge-factor in the normal production figures. We don’t usually run them on the high end rate production, but if you’re not shifting templates, you can get another 4% on the rate. Most of the rest of your numbers are tied up in logistics, which we can’t do anything about, without unlocked printers available throughout Borlian territories, which is never going to happen with those Collective fabricators,” Hiram said, as though giving a sort of lecture.
Marco just looked agog. It wasn’t that he was a poor Borlian representative, but in his previous career as a civil servant, he had been little more than a placeholder, allowing for him to act in almost any capacity to ensure that work continued but with never enough time in any one role to allow him to excel at it. And yet here, he felt as though Hiram were a sort of master of the numbers, grasping some of these facts and figures as though they were little more than minor puzzles of no real consequence, instead of the lives and food that they represented.
“Did we ever look into repurposing those Collective fabricators?” Mac asked.
“I wouldn’t doubt it, but if we’re deploying all of our own, that probably means it was going to be too much effort to rebuild those Collective fabricators to accept all of our production templates. And for all the effort that would go into delivering the part pieces for the Collective fabricator rebuilds, you’re better off just taking a larger scale fabricator and running off smaller ones from there,” Hiram said, sipping at his beverage.
At this point, one of the other doors to the common area opened and the short green scaled Blingoth Oorak came trotting out. She wandered straight over to Mac.
“Oooo lunch. Perfect timing,” she said, grabbing a bowl of greens from the tray.
“Hey! I was going to eat that,” Mac protested.
“Oh please. You and I both know you don’t like veggies,” she shot back, an amused look across her face.
Mac reached over and pulled on her tail just enough that she sat down next to him rather abruptly.
“If you two are going to act like newly weds, you could at least get a room,” Hiram faux protested.
Mac and Oorak rolled their eyes, almost simultaneously, and continued eating.
“How are things going back in the Ross System?” Hiram probed.
“Better. There’s still some animosity between the Blingoths and the humans, but from what you all have taught me, that’s probably never going to do away,” she said, between bites.
“True enough. Rossians especially,” Mac said, perhaps a bit more direct and quieter than he might have liked.
The relief of the Captain by Commander Titanus and Mac had been weighing heavily on Mac, most particularly as the Captain was his ex-wife, who came from the Ross System. But apparently, the Empress herself had gotten involved in figuring out how it was that the captain had been even assigned to the diplomatic vessel. That usually meant some kind of major shake-up on levels that tended to make governments shudder and crack if not properly handled.
“But they’re doing ok. They’re still adjusting to human society. It’s so much different from Blingoth that just talking them through some of the cultural faux pas are more than a little tiring and I’m not even certain I understand it all myself,” she continued, finishing her bowl of veggies.
They sat in silence for a bit as Mac finished eating and drained much of the steaming glass of green liquid in two gulps.
“Well, that’s the thing. Even humans can’t tell you everything about human culture, so you’re probably doing just fine,” Hiram said, sitting down next to Marco, still sipping at his beverage.
“True enough,” Mac said, smiling a bit before he realized that Oorak was poking his side with her tail tip.
He looked at her, intrigued. She smiled, failing to hide her motives from anyone.
“You’ve got an hour and a half before your next holo presence call, Mac,” Hiram said.
Mac stood up and followed Oorak to their quarters.
“Work, work, work,” he murmured just loudly enough that it sounded like complaining, but to an experienced human watcher like Rory was clearly sarcasm.
“So, let’s get those numbers fixed and those reports submitted and then we all can see about taking some of this afternoon to rest as well,” Hiram said, picking up one of the tablets from the table again and beginning to tap on it.
And somewhere in the midst of all of this, Marco remained confused.
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2020.11.26 15:54 pixels-and-paper Had a felony drug charge get completely dismissed before I ever went to court -- can I get a secret clearance?

I had some history with drugs, but had never gotten any kind of a charge for anything until March 2018. I got a simple possession federal felony, but I was never fingerprinted or went to jail. I hired a good lawyer and the entire thing was dismissed before my initial court date the following May. I have been clean for over 2.5 years now and work a 12 step program. I know someone who is a convicted felon for drug charges and they still managed to get a secret clearance by being completely honest and doing outpatient treatment. Their clearance took a long time but they eventually got it. I'm not sure what my chances are as I've never been put forward for a clearance. Haven't filled out any paperwork yet, just signed a contingent job offer that, if the contract is awarded, will lead to me getting put through for a secret clearance. Any advice?
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2020.11.26 15:46 greenandgreener 31 [F4M] Anywhere - Looking for a lifelong, old fashioned [relationship]

  1. I just watched a video clip on YouTube. A fox was trapped in the football nets. In the comment section a guy said he was in the same situation once. He saw a fox stuck in the nets while he was in the middle of the gym class. He ran to the fox. The teacher told him to come back, or there will be consequences. He didn’t listen, found a pair of scissors, and cut the nets loose. The kid got detention for a week. I wondered what for. Was it because he didn’t listen to what the teacher said? Or was because he skipped the gym class without the teacher’s consent? Regardless, I think the kid made the right decision not listening. And I know the fox would agree.
  2. I once got an internship at a company in a neighborhood I am not familiar with. I asked a friend of mine, who did an internship there the year before, about where I should avoid and things like that. Then she was like, "My boyfriend took care of everything for me. I think he um...." I asked my next door neighbor the same question because he got an internship in the same neighborhood I did. The first thing he said was, "If you can't figure things out on your own I don't think you should do an internship at all." For some reason the conversations I had with them still strikes me even until this day. People rarely care. People rarely understand. Even rarer to have someone who both cares about and understands you. Most people don't give a shit about the fact that you are in a bad spot. Some people might say, "Oh man I am sorry that you are in such a bad spot." A few people might pause whatever they are doing and offer you some help. Only one person, or maybe two or three, won't go until they get you out of the bad spot. I would like to be that person for my SO.
What I am looking for -
Short version (there is a long version, with explanation, follows) -
A single, monogamous, adult man who is looking for a lifelong relationship, has time to be in a committed relationship, will become my best friend, is in shape/ not too out of shape, is reasonably healthy, is mentally healthy and stable/ mentally unhealthy and unstable but has been monitoring the progress, mentally available, is a meat eater, is a non smoke rarely smoke, is a non drinke social drinker, is a non drug addict (weed is fine), is a non gambling addict, is a non porn addict, is a virgin/ non virgin but was always responsible to their exes (always wore condoms and never had STDs), is okay with no cohabitation, is okay with no premarital sex, is not into anything kinky, wants kids (biological kids/ adopted kids), is okay with your spouse not taking birth control pills, is okay with your spouse not wearing an IUD, is debt free/ with justifiable debt, is religious/ non religious, is eligible to apply for a passport (and meet each other)
If you do not agree with everything I said above then we are not compatible. “I agreed with most of the things you said.” What does that even mean? I have had enough messages telling me that they do not entirely agree with what I said but would like to see where things go. The answer is nowhere. I do not have time nor do I want to build a castle on sand. I also have had enough messages telling me to reconsider things. I won't.
What I like -
Sun
Snow
Trees
Woodworking
Agriculture
Plants
Good food
Hot food
Hot soup
Warm words
Laughing
Wool yarn
Wool clothing
Names with stories, say like, street names
Dining wares
Trains
Photography
Old stories - old movies and shows
Good stories - movies, shows and documentaries, books, music with good lyrics
Good arts
Thrift stores
Flea markets
What I am looking for - Long version -
A strictly monogamous relationship that is happy, healthy, supportive, and lasts forever. I am not looking for dick pictures, chat buddies, dirty chat buddies, hookups, love affairs, friends, friends with benefits, sugar daddies, sugar uncles, sugar sons, rebound dating, short-term dating, several years dating, polyamorous, open, or online-only relationships.
Communication - I would make time to talk to my SO every day, and very much prefer so, even just to hear that they are safe and sound. But I would be understanding if they are out in Antarctica and the satellite Internet at the work station does not always work properly, or something like that. I would like to deal with all the hardships in life together as a team. Having arguments in a relationship is somewhat unavoidable. I like straightening things out, right away, in a logical, non violent, and non abusive way. I apologize when I make mistakes. Giving silent treatment is really not my thing. I am not saying that I do not have a temper. I do. I do get angry, but within reason. Keeping promises and being punctual are important to me.
Mental health - The amount of toxicity I could take is arguably higher than average, but please alert me if you are struggling mentally. On a side note, I hope you do not like watching porn. It is a poor choice, and is both physically and psychologically damaging. I am not asking everyone of you to agree with me on this, or any other things I say in this post. Whatever floats your boat, strangers; just let me have the freedom to find whatever I am looking for.
Distance - I am not looking for an online marriage. You could join me here. Or I could go there. A solid plan with solid dates would be needed. Future faking is a fucked up thing to do to another person. If you need nude pictures, phone sex or Skype sex to make a long distance relationship works, I am not the person you are looking for.
Meeting for the first time - I have given this a lot of thoughts, still I do not really know when and where would be good to meet up. We could meet either before we go into a relationship or after. It would probably be fairer for us to fly to a foreign place to meet, it means we would have to trust each other enough to do that. In that case it would make more sense to meet after the relationship has already been established. I think it is doable to fall for someone just by talking. Though I am aware that people are often not who they claimed they are. Those who say they are loyal could be experienced cheaters. But we will see. When in doubt, I ask questions.
Marriage - I have never been married but I would like to get married. The last thing I want is a divorce. The word marriage has sort of become a dirty word now but I am old fashioned. I like relationship labels, and I hope you are the same. A side note, I'm not into having a big wedding. Or a diamond ring. Or to dress fancy for a pre-wedding shoot. The National Gallery of Art has three self portraits of a Hungarian photographer and his wife. I would like to have a wedding like theirs. Which means I would just like to hang out with my SO somewhere, take some pictures ourselves, and call it a wedding. If you never had a proper family, fear not, we would have one on our own. However, having a toxic childhood should not be an excuse for exhibiting toxic behaviors. I would never set myself on fire to keep you warm. It would not help.
Sex - It would be too intimidating if you have had unsafe sex, a lot of sex, or many sexual partners in the past. Premarital sex is off the table. People make fun of those who have never had sex, which I do not get; I do not care and even would very much prefer that, because I would not have to grieve over your past. But, then again, grieving is a part of life. It is alright if you are not a virgin, just do not lie to me about your sexual past. I do not really have a sex drive. Mentally speaking, I would be okay if you never wanted to have sex, I would also be okay if you wanted to have a lot of sex. Because I do not specifically crave for sex; I crave for love. In other word, I count all types of affection as a whole, and sex does not specifically stand out from all the rest. Physically speaking, I would not be compatible with those who have a high sex drive, as I think overindulgence in sex is destructive. Also, I would not be compatible with those who are into kinky sex/ filming sex tapes. There is nothing wrong with those, they are just not my thing. I think having boundaries in bed does not mean I do not love them, or love them less than those who have no boundaries. I would never take birth control pills/ wear an IUD, because they have many side effects that I do not want to deal with. Respect my choices.
Kids - I do not have kids. But I would like to raise kids. Ask yourself, honestly, if you are mature enough, and ready to be a father. "But I am not ready, just yet; there are things I want to achieve before I become a father." Find someone younger, then. I would like to add that I have no reason to doubt my fertility as I take reasonably good care of myself. I have no, and never had any, chronic diseases or illnesses. Am at a healthy weight, somewhat slim even. 5 feet 7 inches tall. In the event that I was infertile, surrogacy would not be an option. It goes against my morals. So, again, think twice. I would like to raise adopted kids, and treat them like they are my biological kids. I would not dump my husband if, he was found to be infertile at any point of the marriage. Technically I would be fine if you do not want to raise kids at all, but providing a home for some orphans is something I could do, and I do not want to pass that on.
Living together - I have always, and still am against the idea of living together before marriage. There is nothing wrong with cohabitation, it is just again not my thing. I would gladly introduce my roommate when I was in school to you if you are worried that I have some weird quirks. I might or might not bribe her before I introduce her to you.
Money - I am not rich, and was not born rich, but I have no debts. Never had debts. I am aware that some debts are justifiable, like student loan. I worked in the academia. I just started doing something new, related to my field of study, and that makes me happy. Whether you are a postdoc, or a high school drop out, makes no difference to me. For those who think that throwing me a sentence like “I am a lawyer” would be enough to make me talk, have some self respect. I am fine with my Reddit inbox collects only dust.
Religion - I suppose I have always been mostly an agnostic. My parents sent me to a Christian middle school, then a Christian high school. It would be great if you are a God believer and do not mind me being a non religious person. We could read Bible together. It would also be great if you are a non religious person but follow traditional values.
Smoking, drinking and doing drugs - I do not smoke cigarettes. Or vape. Or whatever. I do not do soft/ hard drugs. Have no past addictions. I do not take over-the-counter drugs even. I do not drink alcohol. If you drink responsibly, then I do not have a problem with that.
Dietary choices - I am an omnivore. Have no food allergies. Please be a meat eater. I do not want to get into an argument with you over a tuna egg sandwich I make for our kids. I would not raise my kids vegan. They should be able to make their own choices when they are old enough. I like cooking quite a bit. Would learn to cook all your favorite dishes.
Pets - I do not have any pets.
Gaming - I do not gamble. I have never played any video or computer games. Game soundtracks though I do often pay attention to.
Tattoos - Sure, why not?
Earrings - Why not? I would buy you earrings.
Long hair - Why not? I would braid your hair when you are asleep, though.
Politics - I am against communism, and totalitarianism. Trump 2020. Please read my reddit history. I pretty much stopped using this account altogether, except posting on Foreveralonedating, because this account has 33 male followers, and that is creepy, and makes me feel very uncomfortable. But my reddit history should give you a hint on what kind of a person I am. (Update: 68 followers now, which shows you how disgusting and creepy some, if not most, men on this site are.)
P.S. This is Reddit, a wonderful yet utterly dangerous place, strangers. Especially for women. So many people prey on the weak. Even scammers would tell you that “you are everything I have been looking for since forever”. Canned messages are easy to spot, because I am smarter than you imagined. There were people who messaged me from throwaway accounts, which I noticed later filled with porn posts. Accounts with no post history are fishy. Anyhow at some point let's do a photo verification. Maybe we could take a selfie while holding a piece of paper with something like "Today's February 33 1920" written on it. Thank you all for sending me a selfie right off the bat. But I do not trust you enough to click on it. Also please do not ask me to talk to you over the phone/ do a video chat with you right off the bat. If you absolutely do not know what to write, check out "pinned post II", there's a list of 30 questions. I talk to one person, if ever there was one, at a time.
TL;DR - I am a non religious person who holds traditional values and beliefs, which for obvious reasons give me a hard time these days. If you see this post, message me, no matter when.
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2020.11.26 15:41 Redditpornuser3 [SPOILER] The Legendary Mechanic Spoiler discussion on it's possible ending.

I wanted to find some like minded people who might have read this great novel and can see the writings on the wall, I've discussed this endlessly with Chinese but I also want to find some others to talk with since those are some great Sci Fi ideas that I haven't seen before and I'm a huge English Sci Fi nerd as well. I know most aren't caught up but I'm sure there are people who are reading it just on release like me from Chinese.
The author has everything planned and I think I got his gist with which he will end his novel.
SPOILER WARNING DON'T READ AHEAD IF YOU DON'T WANT TO GET SPOILED.
Do not click this if you aren't up to date with the newest Chapters
The premise
The meat
How I think it will end
If you're still with me what do you guys think?
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2020.11.26 15:40 nikkotree Your LDR Guide (for men)

In this quarentine a lot of people have been starting Long Distance Relationships. It may not even be such a long distance, but the matter is that when you can't actually meet (for the time being) that's what we're gonna call it. I'm engaged in one myself and I'd like to give you some tips of how to make it work.
1) Have plans of getting together
Yes, I put it on top priority because that's what really matters. A relationship isn't supposed to just "cure" your momentaneous boredom and loneliness. If you're with someone in a relationship you MUST make plans together, and the top priority if you want things to work is to GET TOGETHER. I understand that not always you'll be able to, but make it regular. If she lives in another city or state, try meeting once a week or once a month. If she lives in another country, once every 3, 6 months, or once a year. What matters is that you meet, get together.
2) Keep your life going on
A lot of times I noticed that guys and girls tend to stop their lives to keep on texting or replying their beloved ones whenever a message pops up on their cellphone screen. Don't do that! if you're doing something, focus on it and once you finish it then you can go to her. The point here is that you'll want to spend quality time with her, preferably at the end of the day that's when you can tell her about your day, ask her about hers and have a nice talk about it.
BUILD ANTICIPATION! Let her miss you! At the end of the day when you're totally free to talk with her she's gonna come up running to hug you, kiss you, tell you how she missed you and how she's excited to tell you what happened. Let her feelings flourish for you, give her time and space to wonder about you. These are things that most guys stop doing after they get together, and then their girls back off because she's feeling him too needy and clingy. I'm sure you don't want it to happen.
3) Plan "dates" with her
That's another important step. The courtship never ends, gentleman. It's always important to keep on making "dates" with your lady, a different program, a good quality and exciting time together. Since you're in a LDR, I'd recommend you to make movie nights, play games together, facetime, work out together, anyways... do something that you both enjoy. Do it, but don't overdo it. If you're always doing the same things and with no "resting time" between you're both gonna get bored of it. Make it exciting, don't do it too much, and when you do, make it memorable, amazing, wonderful for both of you.
4) When she speaks, you listen
Listen to your girl. That's it. I know that our logical male brains are all about fixing stuff, solving situations, going to our man cave whenever we need to think about things that aren't going as we want and find ways to solve it. Girls aren't like that, by talking she's already solving and finding ways to solve her problems. When she starts speaking about her day or anything that happened, listen to her, keep it playful, make questions related to what she's talking. Let her speak.
If it's a problem, keep it serious, let her say everything and keep digging it with questions till the point that she will feel better after expressing all her feelings. "My coworker did this this and that..." "Really honey? I can't believe it. Tell me more!" "Yeah she did, then I..." "How did you feel about it, honey?". That's just a example, but will give you a good idea next time it happens with you. Ask her good questions that will make her express herself and her feelings, make her feel understood and cared.
If you're doubtful whether she wants to be listened or actually wants your help, ask her. "Before you keep on, do you want me to listen to you or do you want me to help you with it?". Simple, easy peasy.
5) Texting can be oftenly misunderstood
If you and your girl are almost arguing, call her. Texts can be oftenly misunderstood and you don't want it to happen. Love is easygoing and fun, but sometimes you'll need to talk seriously about things that you or your lady have been doing that isn't cool. Use calls for that.
It's important to mention here that if you're a control freak, don't get in a LDR. You'll get obsessive, needy and crazy. You might use this call tip I gave you for something bad that might break your girl's heart, so watch out. The kind of arguments you want to have aren't you and her screaming at each other. If your lady did something you didn't like, you communicate it, simple as that. If you're feeling that something in the relationship isn't going well, you ask your girl "Babe, we need to talk. I'm feeling you like this, this and that... did something happen?". Dig the problem.
Let me tell you something, when you do something that hurts your woman, she's gonna build up a wall. Girls doesn't like getting hurt (nobody does, but their case are emotional mostly), so they react with their emotions. If she's a loving and caring girl and now she sounds distant and cold, if she's horny as hell and now she doesn't sound like she wants you that much... It's probably something going on. If it's something that YOU did (which is probably the case), go back to your man cave, ask yourself if you've been listening to her, making her feel understood, giving her time to miss you, surprising her once in a while, making her feel loved, so on. Then, you make a call and go ask her. Let her say everything, don't interrupt. Keep asking questions to dig in the problem, get in the root. Apologize and give your explanation. Say you love her and that it won't repeat itself. It's important to not only listen to your woman, but also watch for the signs. If you do something wrong, she'll communicate it. It can be getting colder, distant, less affectionate, so pay attention.
Another important tip is, if she's crying, call her straightly. Don't ask, just do it. You're a man, you must act when necessary. She's gonna appreciate it, and she'll feel cared and loved by you. That's what you want.
6) Give her your love and presence
Be there. When you got the time (that I recommended at the end of the day) be with her. It's your time, 100% of your focus should be on her. Ask her questions, what did she do, what did she feel when doing it, etc. If she sends you pictures or say something different, NOTICE IT. Your girl wants to be noticed. You gentlemen have no idea of how dearly a girl thinks of you when she tries a new haircut, a beautiful dress, a new makeup. She's getting out of her way for you to notice her. She wants your love and presence, she wants you to look at her and say "I loved your new haircut babe, you're looking amazing with it" "I noticed your nails, I love this colour, it was a great choice you made honey" "You're looking so hot with this new dress that I will miss it when I take it off to have fun with you".
Be playful, charming, give her your love and your presence. Guys mostly thinks that by complimenting her girl lots of times a day will make her feel loved and cared. You'll only sound like an ass licker. Notice the things she do, and compliment them. Make her feel loved by your PRESENCE, be there for her. Be her mountain, her rock, her stronghold. Have this protective tone whenever you're speaking with her, to make her feel safe with you.
7) Final notes...
Thank you for reading this long text. I hope it can help you out with your relationship, and I wish from the bottom of my heart that it works and you both can be happy. If you have questions, I'll do my best to answer them here with my (little) knowledge.
I hope you all have a great day.
Sincerely, Nic
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